To know ourselves well–the good, the bad and the ugly– is crucial in so many ways. Because the way we think of ourselves–high or low–guides our interactions with the world. In return, the way the world sees us and reacts to us, is very much a reflection of these very same self-opinions — that stubborn image we hold in …
Positive self-validations are more than just repeating to ourselves a thousand times a day that we are great. It won’t work, unless we actually believe it. And to believe it, we have to feel that we are worthy, loved, appreciated, respected, and accepted. First and foremost–by ourselves.
To feel confident, we need to trust that there is always a path forward, even in darkest and hardest of times. Because hope breeds confidence, and confidence attracts more hope.
We’ve all had experiences, which we want to forget, or wish we could go back in time and change our behavior, reaction, or words. These incidents often leave us anxious and unhappy with ourselves too. We may ruminate on the happening for days, running it over and over in our heads—what we did wrong, what …
We often think that, in order to gain confidence, we need to change ourselves in some major way. This is not true. Quite often, the only change that we need to truly make is to shift the lens through which we see ourselves and the world. Because confidence is no more just a “mind game”–it’s our own …
I am a fan of the “Divergent” series. Not only because it is a good action-romance-mystery story but also because it raises an intriguing question—one that can certainly become a good Friday-night table topic over a glass of wine. That is—how important exactly are genes in determining our destiny? Is there such a thing as …
We often tend to forget that our “imperfections” are also the things that make us different and unique. They make us stand out in the crowd. Therefore, we should take pride that we are not like everyone else, not be ashamed of it.
It’s hard to stand up to the world. Takes lots of courage. But if we don’t do it ourselves, no one else will do the job for us.
It was the great William Shakespeare who famously proclaimed: All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. Surely, he wasn’t far from the truth, as we all have had to play a role sometimes—to smile when we don’t quite want to, to hide our true feelings, or to show assertion …
In 1902, the American sociologist Charles Cooley came up with the concept of the looking glass self, which he described in his work “Human Nature and the Social Order.” It’s based on the idea of the so-called “reflected appraisals,” which is one of the main psychological theories about how we form opinions of ourselves. The …