We often think that, in order to gain confidence, we need to change ourselves in some major way. This is not true. Quite often, the only change that we need to truly make is to shift the lens through which we see ourselves and the world. Because confidence is no more just a “mind game”–it’s our own …
I am a fan of the “Divergent” series. Not only because it is a good action-romance-mystery story but also because it raises an intriguing question—one that can certainly become a good Friday-night table topic over a glass of wine. That is—how important exactly are genes in determining our destiny? Is there such a thing as …
We often tend to forget that our “imperfections” are also the things that make us different and unique. They make us stand out in the crowd. Therefore, we should take pride that we are not like everyone else, not be ashamed of it.
It was the great William Shakespeare who famously proclaimed: All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. Surely, he wasn’t far from the truth, as we all have had to play a role sometimes—to smile when we don’t quite want to, to hide our true feelings, or to show assertion …
In 1902, the American sociologist Charles Cooley came up with the concept of the looking glass self, which he described in his work “Human Nature and the Social Order.” It’s based on the idea of the so-called “reflected appraisals,” which is one of the main psychological theories about how we form opinions of ourselves. The …
“Self-doubt inflict the deepest wounds.” Marty Robin When I was a little girl, I often questioned the world around me, including my own decisions. After all, the great philosophers taught us that every wise person should know that they know nothing (Socrates) but that we must dare to know (Kant). Armed with such an advice, …
It’s barely a convoluted argument that comparisons to others is one of the most detrimental influencer to our confidence. They are also amongst the top things, which every self-help book or article on self-esteem will prescribe to abstain from, because they are believed to impose a rather heavy social taxation on our self-image. And nothing …
Confidence is… the ability to follow our goals without the world getting in the way.
We are often our hardest critics, but remember: The only person you really need to impress is yourself. The only person you can truly fare against is the person you were yesterday.
There is a lot of commotion these days about confidence. We have to be self-assured, we are told, otherwise we may as well forget about success and reaching our goals. Insecurity is a shameful disease in our 21st century—a weakness and a character flaw, which prevents us from becoming our true selves. Self-esteem has been extensively …