Lack of self-esteem often comes from poor body image. Poor body image comes from relying heavily on stereotypes for validation. And believing in stereotypes translates in complete disregard for our uniqueness. So think about it: Would you rather be stereotypical or different from the crowd?
We tend to forget how much power we hold in our hands. We make a choice every day– to be happy, to be kind, and to be confident. If you lack confidence, just opt for a different choice tomorrow. Decide that you want to be confident, that you want to love yourself more, that are …
In his wonderful book “The Myth of Self-Esteem” (published in 2005), the great American psychologist Albert Ellis talks about the disadvantages of pursuing self-esteem and why there are better alternatives to feel good about ourselves. When we hear the words “self-esteem” and “book” in one sentence, we usually think about the self-help section at the …
Confidence is…knowing that you won’t be liked by everyone and being ok with it. Often, it means that you are finally doing something right by yourself, not others.
Influencing your self-esteem is not an easy task, no matter what all the magazine articles tell you. Just think about it– isn’t it highly doubtful that anyone can achieve lasting results by following a 10-bullet advice, which often is not even proven to actually work? If it was that easy, we all will be confident– …
Anyone who’s read Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” may be surprised to learn that the book was written almost a century ago. It was first published in 1936 and has since sold over 15 million copies. Not many (if any) books that are 100 years old resonate today with the same fresh …
We all, naturally, want to see our endeavors pay off. No one likes to work for the sake of working—it’s always to achieve something greater, to create, to leave a legacy behind. And while things as luck, talent, abilities, even our backgrounds matter to a point, certain personality traits, which we can largely nurture, and the decisions that we make, have the greatest say in our outcomes.
It’s not always easy to believe in yourself and to stay positive—we all have been there—talking ourselves out of making a change because it requires too much effort and no guarantees of success. Taking a risk is scary—it may be just better to dwell in our current state and hope for fate to smile …
It’s ok to not feel upbeat and confident every day. You can have “relapse” days – you are allowed to take a break, to regain your strength, to re-focus. What matters is that you keep trying, that you don’t give up, that you move forward toward your dreams. If you took a step back today, …
Confidence is a choice. It’s purposely choosing: light over darkness, calmness over anxiety, hope over despair, kindness and forgiveness over animosity and negativity. Therefore, it’s within our control to make these decisions-about ourselves, about our outcomes, about our lives….