The work fairy has been kind to me. Over the years, I’ve held some pretty good positions and was involved in many impactful projects—the types that attract lots of attention from the guys upstairs. I’ve been mentored by a CEO and have worked closely with all kinds of C-execs. Pretty lucky, wouldn’t you say? How …
Remember, lifting your confidence is not a task reserved only for the therapists. You don’t need others to tell you how much you are worth. You have all the motivation, the desire and the tools you will ever need—within your mind— to initiate your own journey toward finding your voice in the crowd. And with …
In his wonderful book “The Myth of Self-Esteem” (published in 2005), the great American psychologist Albert Ellis talks about the disadvantages of pursuing self-esteem and why there are better alternatives to feel good about ourselves. When we hear the words “self-esteem” and “book” in one sentence, we usually think about the self-help section at the …
Confidence is…knowing that you won’t be liked by everyone and being ok with it. Often, it means that you are finally doing something right by yourself, not others.
Influencing your self-esteem is not an easy task, no matter what all the magazine articles tell you. Just think about it– isn’t it highly doubtful that anyone can achieve lasting results by following a 10-bullet advice, which often is not even proven to actually work? If it was that easy, we all will be confident– …
The Terror Management theory of self-esteem is an interesting concept. Human behavior, it says, is motivated by the awareness that death is inevitable. The tension — that we want to live and that we will all die one day –creates anxiety. Therefore, we need self-esteem as it serves as a buffer—it helps us to decrease the terror and to alleviate the fear of demise, which otherwise “paralyzes” and prevents us from pursuing our life goals.
Building confidence is rarely a “bang” moment. It’s a portfolio of victories—small and big. It’s the idea that we are not static, that we are inching forward, that we are leaning from our mistakes, evolving. Therefore, action is the fuel for confidence.
Self-inflicted mental boundaries lead to self-restrictive thinking. Thinking and acting small, in turn, makes us feel small and insignificant. But remember, you do matter. Dare to dream big, dare to act, dare to craft the life you want ❤ ~Evelyn
Letting our value be shaped by others’ approval is a sure path to anxiety, insecurity and disappointment. Remember- you don’t need other people to tell you how much you are worth!
I recently attended a senior executive meeting for an important budget discussion. I know, it doesn’t sound too exciting. But as I sat there with the brightest at my company, it got me thinking. How are these people different from the rest of us? That is, what’s the recipe that makes someone a CEO, …